There’s never enough time in the day. But with an age-old technique, blocking time, you certainly can get a LOT more accomplished. Just format your day according to YOUR personality and see the results. Remember, it takes three weeks for anything to become a habit. If you only try blocking time for more productivity for a few days, you might not experience the benefits. Continue reading
Has anyone ever told you to, “Get over it” or “Just be positive?”
You know… I could sit here and be positive all day long. I’m a genuinely happy person. Some even say, “excessively happy” and “perky.” But when someone is hurting or has been treated poorly, I’m going to be there for them and let them complain and work through their hurt. THAT is a true friend. I’m NOT going to tell them to “just be positive,” or to “get over it.” (Well, unless it’s to that point that they just need to “get over it.” But that’s not what this story is about.)
What a friend needs
You need to learn to cry with your friend when she is hurting. Do not compete with her about who had it worse. And if you find that you’re sharing your own examples, catch yourself and stop. Ask her if it makes her feel better to hear your story. If not, have her go on.
When your friend is going through something and needs to talk, let her talk it out. Don’t stifle her sharing.
Hold your tongue while she grumbles because at one point, she might work it out on her own, without you saying a word.
If she needs or wants you to share, then do so. But first you must actively listen, repeat back what you hear, and make sure you understand what she is saying. Try to feel her heart in her story.
Sometimes though, your friend doesn’t even care if you understand. She just needs a sounding board. In this case, don’t try to solve her problem. Just be present.
I was reading a blog that was about friendship. Women who have hardly ever had friends were posting their pain in the comments on the blog. The original author of the blog post is a very kind and sweet person. But she didn’t reply to many of the women who posted their hurts. My personal opinion is because she hasn’t been on the receiving end of loneliness and didn’t know how to respond.
These women were not talking about friends being too busy to hang out type of loneliness. They were talking about a NO FRIENDS kind of loneliness that others didn’t understand.
One woman had a very common story. It was one of trying to fit in and being kind to everyone. She wrote, “The women gossip about me behind my back and tell lies about me.” She tried to find out what she did to offend, but the more she worked on it and tried to apologize for anything she may have done, the worse the women behaved.
Then came that one sentence that broke my heart… “And these women are all from church.” Sadly, this is a common story. People in church are not immune from hurting others. I constantly hear of women not being accepted. The stories are very similar no matter what the surroundings. It happens at work, school, clubs, and yes, sadly, church. The reason is almost always the same – Jealousy.
Paul and James talk about various sorts of quarreling and jealousy. I put scripture references below that spoke to me while I was writing this blog post. There were things that came to mind as I read through the scriptures. I hope it will bless you!
I don’t have answers as to how to handle this other than to pray, and find a group of people with similar interests such as biking, hiking, playing cards, watching movies, etc. I can’t promise you anything, but if you post, I’ll pray for you.
Scripture References with my own commentary
2 Thessalonians 3:6-15
Warning Against Idleness
6 In the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, we command you, brothers and sisters, to keep away from every believer who is idle and disruptive and does not live according to the teaching[a] you received from us. 7 For you yourselves know how you ought to follow our example. We were not idle when we were with you, 8 nor did we eat anyone’s food without paying for it. On the contrary, we worked night and day, laboring and toiling so that we would not be a burden to any of you. 9 We did this, not because we do not have the right to such help, but in order to offer ourselves as a model for you to imitate. 10 For even when we were with you, we gave you this rule: “The one who is unwilling to work shall not eat.”
While these verses are in reference to earning your keep, the point it makes about being idle and busybodies is a reality that is often experienced at work, church, and in the home. Have you seen others chatting around the water cooler while you’re steadily working until it’s your formal break time? Or did you do your chores when you were young, while your sibling(s) didn’t? How about the small percentage of churchgoers volunteering and doing 100% of the work?
11 We hear that some among you are idle and disruptive. They are not busy; they are busybodies. 12 Such people we command and urge in the Lord Jesus Christ to settle down and earn the food they eat. 13 And as for you, brothers and sisters, never tire of doing what is good.
14 Take special note of anyone who does not obey our instruction in this letter. Do not associate with them, in order that they may feel ashamed. 15 Yet do not regard them as an enemy, but warn them as you would a fellow believer. 1
1 Corinthians 3:3-4
The Church and Its Leaders
1 Brothers and sisters, I could not address you as people who live by the Spirit but as people who are still worldly—mere infants in Christ. 2 I gave you milk, not solid food, for you were not yet ready for it. Indeed, you are still not ready. 3 You are still worldly. For since there is jealousy and quarreling among you, are you not worldly? Are you not acting like mere humans? 4 For when one says, “I follow Paul,” and another, “I follow Apollos,” are you not mere human beings?
While this verse is about The Church and its Leaders, it’s also about jealousy and quarreling among believers, the point holds true in any area of life. Jealousy and quarreling is an easy thing for Satan to use to bring down God’s people (all people). Therefore, especially in church, we should be extra careful to be inclusive and loving to “all,” not leaving others out.
1 Corinthians 5:6-8
6 Your boasting is not good. Don’t you know that a little yeast leavens the whole batch of dough? 7 Get rid of the old yeast, so that you may be a new unleavened batch—as you really are. For Christ, our Passover lamb, has been sacrificed. 8 Therefore let us keep the Festival, not with the old bread leavened with malice and wickedness, but with the unleavened bread of sincerity and truth.
Submit Yourselves to God
1 What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? 2 You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God. 3 When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.
4 You adulterous people, don’t you know that friendship with the world means enmity against God? Therefore, anyone who chooses to be a friend of the world becomes an enemy of God. 5 Or do you think Scripture says without reason that he jealously longs for the spirit he has caused to dwell in us[b]? 6 But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:
“God opposes the proud
but shows favor to the humble.”
7 Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. 8 Come near to God and he will come near to you. Wash your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded. 9 Grieve, mourn and wail. Change your laughter to mourning and your joy to gloom. 10 Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up.
11 Brothers and sisters, do not slander one another. Anyone who speaks against a brother or sister or judges them speaks against the law and judges it. When you judge the law, you are not keeping it, but sitting in judgment on it. 12 There is only one Lawgiver and Judge, the one who is able to save and destroy. But you—who are you to judge your neighbor?
Brothers and Sisters, Please remember that people who come to church are there for the Lord’s Word, support, fellowship, and only God knows what else. If you’re busy with your close friends and family but not welcoming others with the arms of Jesus, how will they learn His love?
Please remember, whether you’re a Christian or not, we are always being watched, even if people don’t know they are watching us. Later, something might jog a memory for those who’ve witnessed your life (if even just for a moment of your life). Will they remember good or bad?
24 ‘“The Lord bless you
and keep you;
25 the Lord make his face shine on you
and be gracious to you;
26 the Lord turn his face toward you
and give you peace.”’
Blessings and Peace,
Holy Bible, New International Version®, NIV® Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc.® Used by permission. All rights reserved worldwide.
Direct Sales Tips For Heading Into Summer
~ Do you have fun at your in-home parties?
~ Do you book events in other places like a meeting room at a restaurant, coffee shop or community center?
~ Do you have planned games that are fun and easy to implement?
Direct Sales Tips – Where to host the party
Meeting room or facility
Some people don’t want to host a party because they don’t want Continue reading
Journey of The Busy Woman – The Missing Boots
I posted a question on my Facebook fan page: How old is the oldest pair of shoes in your closet?
It elicited quite a response! As I started to type my response, a beautiful memory flooded my mind.
I wonder how many of us still have old shoes or boots in our closets due to sentimental reasons… I have a pair of boots from my teen years. They are about 34 years old. Why? My shoes and boots used to go missing every so often. It was the weirdest thing.
The Story Of the Missing Boots
Mishpocha Chicken – Healthy Chicken Recipe
This is my own version of a healthy chicken recipe I had at a dinner party. I have severe food allergies and every so often I will find a recipe that I can modify and eat. This recipe is one of my favorites.
If you’re wondering how I came up with the name… Growing up, the relatives spoke Yiddish in the house. I’d hear them say, “The whole Mishpocha.” They meant it as the whole group, the whole family, everyone is here. But I mean it as in, “Chicken that the whole family will enjoy.” I put everything but the kitchen sink in the recipe, the whole kit and caboodle. It’s sort of a play on words! So ENJOY!
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