Help Your Children Get Organized
Shouldn't we be able to give our children instructions
on how to organize, and then, voila, they would know how to do it?
Unfortunately, organization is not that easy. Organizing
is something that has to be learned over time.
If children see their parents always organizing, they
will begin to learn by seeing and helping. Then, when children also
have one project to organize such as their own bedrooms, then over
time they will really learn and understand the ways and means of
doing.
For example, my parents never told me HOW TO. They
did everything themselves. I was a terrible type B messy when I was
a child, all the way up until I moved out. When I got into my own
home, THAT turned me into a type A compulsive. This was now my own
home that my friends were going to be coming in and out of, and I
didn't want them coming in and out of a mess. It would reflect poorly
on me.
Encouraging participation is a very big deal in training
our children. If they are not allowed or taught to participate and
learn to organize when they are young, it will be hard to get them
to do so later on.
Teach your children HOW TO access what they need.
For example, start in a bedroom:
- Put everything that is out of place in a pile on the floor.
- Sit on the floor with them and show each child how to sort.If
necessary, make little cards that say...
- KEEP
- MAYBE
- THROW AWAY
- SELL AT GARAGE SALE
You get the picture. Now put each card in front of
a large box. Also have ready a variety of empty containers,
boxes, bins and so on in different sizes.
- Encourage each child to sort through those items they know
they are going to keep first. Then they will see the piles and
clutter go down faster. For example, have them put all their
Legos in this pile or Barbies in that pile. Then allow the children
to choose storage containers for those items, fill the container,
and put it away.
Another suggestion is to have your younger children
follow you around the house while you clean, sort, and organize.
I had six bins all the same size on the two lower shelves when my
children were small and I ran a daycare center. At the end of the
day, they each took a bin and filled it with like items.
Also, when my oldest daughter was little, I bought
her a cute little outfit that included an apron, dust pan, broom,
feather duster and bucket. The set was HER size and she loved it.
When there were things that needed to go into another room, I put
them in her bucket and told her which room to deposit them into.
She also got to dust things on one side of the room while I cleaned
on the other. I'd tell her what a good job she was doing and fight
the urge to do it better.
Following me around for so many years while I cleaned
did keep her from making other messes in other rooms, but most of
all made her a participant instead of a bystander.
If you have a son, you can find or make more masculine
cleaning tools for him to use, such as a regular small broom instead
of a pink one. My son also followed me around for years while I fixed
the sprinklers, mowed the lawn (I did this to keep in shape among
other things) or did other things in the yard. I saw the rewards
of my patience when my youngest, came to me and said, "Boy mom, Josh
is really good at fixing things! He just fixed the sprinklers that
were broken and stuck."
Let your children live what you want them to learn!
They will learn to organize much more easily by watching, helping,
AND doing things themselves, than when you just talk at them or do
the work for them.
Copyright © 1999 Susie Glennan
Susie Glennan has been happily married since 1982, is mom to 3 teenagers,
and is a Home Maker, Nurturer, Teacher, Author, Professional Speaker,
Toastmaster, President of The Busy Woman, Inc., DBA - The Busy Woman's Daily
Planner®. She teaches time management seminars, offers FREE consultations
with your order, and will help you set up a schedule that's right for you.
800-848-7715 www.thebusywoman.com
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